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12 Ways to Beat Addiction

12 Ways to Beat Addiction

By far my most popular post is the gallery, “12 Depression Busters.” But those suggestions were actually a response to Beyond Blue reader Peg’s query on how to stop smoking. They absolutely do help a person fight depression and the ongoing war against negative thoughts; however they were designed as techniques to use when getting pulled into addictive behaviors.

The last month or so I have used every single one of these. And I’m happy to report that I actually feel a lot freer from insidious, destructive behavior than I did several weeks ago. Here they are: 12 Addiction Zappers. They work!

1. Get Some Buddies

It works for Girl Scouts, depressives, and addicts of all kinds. I remember having to wake up my buddy to go pee in the middle of the night at Girl Scout camp. That was right before she rolled off her cot, out of the tent and down the hill, almost into the creek.

Our job as buddies is to help each other not roll out of the tent and into the stream, and to keep each other safe during midnight bathroom runs. My buddies are the six numbers programmed into my cell phone, the voices that remind me sometimes as many as five times a day: “It will get better.”

2. Read Away the Craving

Books can be buddies too! And when you are afraid of imposing on others like I am, they serve as wonderful reminders to stay on course. When I’m in a weak spot, especially with regard to addictive temptations, I place a book next to my addiction object: the Big Book (the Bible) goes next to the liquor cabinet; some 12-step pamphlet gets clipped to the freezer (home to frozen Kit Kats, Twix, and dark chocolate Hershey bars); and I’ll get out Melody Beattie before e-mailing an apology to someone who just screwed me over.

3. Be Accountable to Someone

In the professional world, what is the strongest motivator for peak performance? The annual review (or notification of the pink slip). Twelve-step groups use this method–called accountability–to keep people sober and on the recovery wagon. Everyone has a sponsor, a mentor to teach them the program, to guide them toward physical, mental, and spiritual health.

Today several people together serve as my emotional “sponsor,” keeping me accountable for my actions: Mike (my writing mentor), my therapist, my doctor, Fr. Dave, Deacon Moore, Eric, and my mom. Having these folks around to divulge my misdeeds to is like confession–it keeps the list of sins from getting too long.

4. Predict Your Weak Spots

When I quit smoking, it was helpful to identify the danger zones–those times I most enjoying firing up lung rockets: in the morning with my java, in the afternoon with my java, in the car (if you’ve been my passenger you know why), and in the evening with my java and a Twix bar.

I jotted these times down in my “dysfunction journal” with suggestions of activities to replace the smokes: In the morning I began eating eggs and grapefruit, which don’t blend well with cigs. I bought a tape to listen to in the car. An afternoon walk replaced the 3:00 smoke break. And I tried to read at night, which didn’t happen (eating chocolate is more soothing).

p>5. Distract Yourself

Any addict would benefit from a long list of “distractions,” activities than can take her mind off of a cig, a glass of Merlot, or a suicidal plot (during a severe depression). Some good ones: crossword puzzles, novels, Sudoku, e-mails, reading Beyond Blue (a must!); walking the dog (pets are wonderful “buddies” and can improve mental health), card games, movies, “American Idol” (as long as you don’t make fun of the contestants…bad for your depression, as it attracts bad karma); sports, de-cluttering the house (cleaning out a drawer, a file, or the garage…or just stuffing it with more stuff); crafts; gardening (even pulling weeds, which you can visualize as the marketing director that you hate working with); exercise; nature (just sitting by the water); and music (even Yanni works, but I’d go classical).

6. Sweat

Working out is technically an addiction for me (according to some lame article I read), and I guess I do have to be careful with it since I have a history of an eating disorder (who doesn’t?). But there is no depression buster as effective for me than exercise. An aerobic workout not only provides an antidepressant effect, but you look pretty stupid lighting up after a run (trust me, I used to do it all the time and the stares weren’t friendly) or pounding a few beers before the gym. I don’t know if it’s the endorphins or what, but I just think–even pray–much better and feel better with sweat dripping down my face.

7. Start a Project

Here’s a valuable tip I learned in the psych ward–the fastest way to get out of your head is to put it in a new project–compiling a family album, knitting a blanket, coaching Little League, heading a civic association, planning an Earth Day festival, auditioning for the local theatre, taking a course at the community college.

I went to Michael’s (the arts and crafts store) and bought 20 different kinds of candles to place around the house, five picture boxes for all the loose photos I have bagged underneath the piano, and two dozen frames. Two years later, all of it is still there, bagged and stored in the garage.

However, I also signed up for a tennis class, because I’m thinking ahead and when the kids go off to college, Eric and I will need another pastime in addition to reading about our kids on Facebook.

8. Keep a Record

One definition of suffering is doing the same thing over and over again, each time expecting different results. It’s so easy to see this pattern in others: “Katherine, for God’s sake, Barbie doesn’t fit down in the drain (it’s not a water slide)” or the alcoholic who swears she will be able to control her drinking once she finds the right job. But I can be so blind to my own attempts at disguising self-destructive behavior in a web of lies and rationalizations.

That’s why, when I’m in enough pain, I write everything down–so I can read for myself exactly how I felt after I had lunch with the person who likes to beat me up as a hobby, or after eight weeks of a Marlboro binge, or after two weeks on a Hershey-Starbucks diet. Maybe it’s the journalist in me, but the case for breaking a certain addiction, or stopping a behavior contributing to depression, is much stronger once you can read the evidence provided from the past.

9. Be the Expert

The quickest way you learn material is by being forced to teach it. I adamantly believe that you have to fake it ’til you make it. And I always feel less depressed after I have helped someone who is struggling with sadness. It’s the twelfth step of the twelve-step program, and a cornerstone of recovery. Give and you shall receive. The best thing I can do for my brain is to find a person in greater pain than myself and to offer her my hand. If she takes it, I’m inspired to stand strong, so I can pull her out of her funk. And in that process, I am often pulled out of mine.

10. Grab Your Security Item

Everyone needs a blankie. Okay, not everyone. Mentally ill recovering addicts like myself need a blankie, a security object to hold when they get scared or turned around. Mine is a medal of St. Therese that I carry in my purse or in pocket. I’m a bit of a scrupulous, superstitious Catholic (I fit the religious OCD profile), but my medal (and St. Therese herself) give me consolation, so she’s staying in my pocket or purse. She reminds me that the most important things are sometimes invisible to the eye: like faith, hope, and love. When I doubt all goodness in the world–and accuse God of a bad creation job–I simply close my eyes and squeeze the medal.

11. Get on Your Knees

This would be the addiction-virgin’s first point, not the eleventh, and it would be followed by instructions on how to pray the rosary or say the Stations of the Cross. But I think that the true addict or depressive need only utter a variation of these two simple prayers: “Help!” and “Take the bloody thing from me, now!”

12. Do Nothing

If you do nada, that means you’re not getting worse, and that is perfectly acceptable most days. After all, tomorrow is another day.


10 Tips to Overcome Internet Addiction

If you find in it inevitable to look at your phone again and again, checking your social media accounts, and signing in frequently, you might be suffering from internet addiction. Internet addiction happens when you get dependant on the use of internet whether it is texting, constantly peeking, or using social media. Professionals have compared this addiction to drug addiction because it impacts your health, work performance, daily life, engagement with others, and mental process the same way drugs do.

Throughout 2014, around 420 million people were addicted to the internet. The American Psychiatric Association has also stated that kids of age 13-17 are almost online constantly. Such statistics show that internet addiction is getting more common and real day by day. If you find yourself or your loved one suffering with this, there are a few things that can be done to overcome it. Such as:


10 Ways to Beat Addiction

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), approximately 23.5 million Americans are addicted to drugs and alcohol. While rates of addiction among fire fighters and paramedics are unknown, we do know that this population of first responders is uniquely susceptible to using substances to cope with the stressful and demanding nature of their jobs.

As a fire fighter/paramedic, you have likely seen the grave consequences of addiction up close while responding to overdose calls or tragic automobile accidents. Or, perhaps addiction has touched your own life or that of your spouse or crew member.

While addiction has devastated countless lives, families, communities and careers, it does not have to be a death sentence. Rather, an addiction is a medical condition that can be treated and managed. While no path to recovery looks the same, most include a combination of these time-tested strategies:

  1. Detox. For some, an inpatient clinically managed detox is required to treat life- threatening withdrawal symptoms, as is the case with alcohol dependence. Detox is not only effective for some, it’s the only safe means to start the recovery process.
  2. Residential Treatment. For some, removing oneself from a toxic environment or access to substances can only be achieved by living at treatment center for 28 days or longer. Residential treatment provides an excellent opportunity to focus on recovery with minimal distractions.
  3. Outpatient Treatment. Regardless of the severity of one’s addiction, outpatient treatment is almost always recommended. Outpatient treatment is offered at various levels of care, is usually group-based, and provides a combination of psycho-education, relapse prevention and drug and alcohol screening.
  4. AA/NA. 12-step meetings are free, widely accessible and an indispensable tool for anyone in recovery. AA and NA is built on a series of 12 spiritual principles, which strongly emphasize personal and peer accountability.
  5. Smart Recovery. An alternative to traditional 12-step meetings, SMART Recovery meetings teach individuals how to change self-defeating thinking, emotions and actions that fuel compulsive behavior, including drug and alcohol use. SMART meetings are available in person, online or over the phone
  6. Peer Mentorship. Many individuals in recovery benefit from having an individual mentor to help keep them on track with all recovery behaviors. This could be a traditional AA/ NA sponsor who is in recovery themselves, or a trained peer from your department’s Peer Support Team.
  7. Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT). While not for everyone, medication-assisted treatment is the use of medications in combination with counseling and behavioral therapies for the treatment of addiction. When used under the careful supervision of a physician, medications such as Antabuse, suboxone and buprenorphine can play an essential role in managing cravings of alcohol, heroin and other opioids.
  8. Coping Skills. Copings skills are specific behaviors or strategies to manage uncomfortable feelings or situations that triggers cravings to use. Coping skills vary widely person to person and might include exercise, positive self-talk, yoga, mindfulness, cleaning, drawing, writing or talking to a friend.
  9. Get Mental Health Treatment. For anyone struggling with an underlying mood or anxiety disorder, managing addiction will be extremely challenging without proper psychological help. This could be individual or group therapy, medication or a combination of treatment options with a licensed mental healthcare provider.
  10. Plan Ahead with People, Places and Things. Regardless of one’s stage of recovery, staying sober is about avoiding people, places and things that make you want to use. This means having a working daily knowledge of your triggers and how to manage them.

There have never been so many effective and accessible strategies for managing addiction as there are today. If you are struggling with a drug or alcohol problem, help can’t wait. Talk to a trusted peer, chaplain, spouse or counselor and ask about what resources are available.

If you’re not sure where to turn, call The IAFF Center of Excellence today at ( 855) 999-9845 today for a no-obligation, free and confidential screening. The IAFF Center of Excellence is a 64-bed comprehensive treatment center designed exclusively for IAFF members struggling with addiction, PTSD and other co-occurring mental health problems.

Medical Disclaimer: The IAFF Center of Excellence aims to improve the quality of life for people struggling with a substance use or mental health disorder with fact-based content about the nature of behavioral health conditions, treatment options and their related outcomes. We publish material that is researched, cited, edited and reviewed by licensed medical professionals. The information we provide is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. It should not be used in place of the advice of your physician or other qualified healthcare provider.


A 12-step guide to fight pornography addiction

Pornography consumption is not something that can easily be stopped. Once the appetite for it has developed, it actually increases.

In his 1988 study Pornography Effects: Empirical and Clinical Evidence, Victor Cline, then with the University of Utah's Department of Psychology noted that studies show pornography is progressive and addictive for many. It often leads to the user acting out his fantasy - often on children.

For those who have been trained from a young age to lower their gaze and practice Islamic principles of modesty, this may not even be an issue.

But for those who have sadly fallen into pornography addiction, there is a way out.

Alcoholics' Anonymous is an organization that has fought the battle against alcohol addiction since 1935. Its "Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous" provides a clear, general guide on how to get out of the addiction of alcohol, which has killed people, ruined families and led to health problems.

Sound Vision has adapted the 12 steps from this guide to offer some guidance on how those addicted to pornography can get out of it.

Step One-Admit that you can't give up

Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

Step Two-Admit only God can get you out of this

You know, after trying using so many different ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

Step Three-Your life and death are all in Allah's control

You have decided to put your complete trust in Allah, who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death. You have chosen to seek His Help first and foremost.

Step Four-You have completed a self-analysis

You have done an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points and bad points, analyzed your addiction, and tried to understand how you reached this point.

Step Five-Made a specific repentance to Allah

You have admitted to Allah, to yourself, and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. You did not make a general request for repentance. You specifically listed your mistakes, and in particular, your addiction to pornography.

Step Six-You were open and ready to receive Allah's help to change

You know that your Tawbah (repentence to God) and being sincere, must be followed by action. You are ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful. Even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the internet alone.

Step Seven- You have asked for the removal of faults

You have asked Allah, with sincerity, humility and regret, to help you never repeat this action (i.e. looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past again.

Step Eight-You have decided to seek others' forgiveness

You have made a list of everyone you had hurt through your addiction, whether it was your spouse, children or parents, and made the intention to approach them seeking forgiveness. You must not, however, disclose your addiction since whatever Allah has kept hidden must remain hidden. You just seek forgiveness for any possible act of harm and hurt. Allah does not like a sin to be advertised.

Step Nine-Seek forgiveness of God

Seek the forgiveness and protection of Allah. Do sadaqah (charity) and fast as kaffarah if possible.

Step Ten-You have completed nightly self-evaluations

You continually, every night, have done an honest self-evaluation of your behavior, and were ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.

Step Eleven-You have prayed for greater God-consciousness

You prayed and continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah, and a consciousness of Him (Taqwa) wherever you are. You increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

Step Twelve-You preached and practiced

You have not just "moved on" after Allah blessed you to get out of this addiction. You helped others you knew with this problem with regular contact and sincere advice. By the grace of Allah, helping others helped you maintain control over your addiction and you helped another person get out of this destruction and misery.


What You Can Do


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Effective Treatments for Various Addictions

People of all ages, backgrounds, and races can become addicted to a variety of substances and experiences. From drugs and alcohol to porn and gambling, addiction is a real problem for a significant portion of the population.

Just as their personal stories are unique, so, too, should be the treatment programs available to addicts seeking help. The following are some of the most common and effective addiction treatments available today:

Detox

Many drug addicts are advised to begin their treatment program with a medically-assisted detox that allows their body to rid itself of the addictive substances. This can help diminish the withdrawal symptoms that often cause an addict to begin abusing again.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT is a very effective tool that can be used to treat a variety of addictions from alcohol addiction to drugs to food addiction and more. CBT helps a person identify her unhealthy behavior patterns and also her triggers. She can then learn coping skills that will help her navigate life and its challenges moving forward. CBT can be combined with other therapies as well.

Medication

When combined with other therapies, medication can play an integral role in an addict’s recovery. Certain medications can help to reduce cravings, improve mood, and decrease addictive behaviors.

Contingency Management (CM)

CM has been found to be very effective in treating several types of addictions including alcohol, opioids, and stimulants. This treatment protocol relies on providing material rewards as motivation for installing desirable behaviors, such as maintaining sobriety. CM has been found to help beat relapse.

Motivational Interviewing (MI)

MI is a form of addiction therapy that helps an individual to resolve any ambivalence they may have. This allows them to embrace their treatment and see it as a positive thing instead of as a punishment.

12-Step Facilitation

A 12-step program has been shown over decades now to be wildly successful in helping addicts stay sober. Weekly meetings are typically hosted by varying 12-step fellowships such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous.

The best treatment plan is one that is created with YOU in mind. If you would like to work with a counselor who will create a treatment plan based on your history and goals, please reach out to me.


Comments

Saddo on January 12, 2020:

It’s true that’s the only way and just play poker for fun maybe. Hope I can win one day but no bookies or roulette ect.

Benny usa on January 11, 2020:

Yeah! 2020 a good start. the only way to win. is to stop gambling !

Saddo on December 31, 2019:

No bet today and no bookie bets for 2020 maybe just a fun game of poker to pass the time away

Christopher1985 on December 30, 2019:

Let&aposs not gamble at all in 2020. That is my goal. I foresee a bright 2020 with no gambling.

Next time you think about making a bet, think about all the negative feelings you ever had after taking a loss.

Use your time wisely. Each second we waste gambling we will never get back.

Your time can be better served to the world by volunteering and doing positive things that could help your well being.

Saddo on December 29, 2019:

No bets for me today just been laying in bed all day to keep me away from it all

Saddo on December 28, 2019:

Almost done 700 today but about 60 lost in the end as I done Man U Man U. Even ran over to cover the bet. No bets for me 2020

Saddo on December 11, 2019:

I lost a 1000 in one day on the horses 2 weeks ago and just getting over. Sudcide thoughts everything

Clo79 on December 10, 2019:

I know Im chasing the high of winning even though I can never come out ahead. I spend until I lose even if Ive won. Im stressed out, getting divorced and I think depressed. I know Im chasing the high of winning to feel the high I feel when winning. Feels good to get that out an be hoest with someone evn if its a stranger. I don&apost know how to feel happy that is really what my problem is. I haven&apost wasted an amount of money that I cant recover from yet so thankful for that but I have definitely wasted a lot of money.

BennyUSA on November 30, 2019:

I lost a lot of money from this gambling illness . the only way to win . is to stop ! I’ve been from ga meetings,gambling therapy, forums. it all depends on you !theres hope guys. life is good . move on in life. leave this miserable life of gamblers !

Sinead on November 30, 2019:

Lost a 1000 today as Man City let me down for big money and a bribver dare 2 to 13 lost and head just went. I hate this illness but no more now

Sinead on November 26, 2019:

Lost 600 last month and all confused and unhappy hope it gets better for my after Christmas.

Bennyusa on November 25, 2019:

Laura on November 24, 2019:

This is me I’m close to losing everything. I’ve been a gambler for years and it is destroying me and my relationships. I can’t get control I’m at a loss

Cherry67 on November 24, 2019:

Just found this site - while desperately searching for help at 4:00 am.

All these feeling are like my feelings - I can&apost believe I am not alone.

Hope we can help each other. This will be my first step to recovery.

Day One. I pray for all of us. These are all good advice. I am going to take to heart. Thank You for the Forum.

goldbar7s on November 14, 2019:

Please stop! Be happy with what you have. That is what I say to myself constantly.

Gary Thompson on November 11, 2019:

I done a course called the landmark forum and I stopped gambling that day 23/08/19 and have not gambled a penny since. Google it, you’ve nothing to lose

DaisyRuth on November 11, 2019:

I like your help suggestions.

I am gonna try them, starting now.

sourav on August 30, 2019:

I am 16 years and I have heavily addicted to cricket betting since 2 years. at first I used to play with 200 to 300 rs(3-4 usd) then day by day the limits got increased to around 15k even 30k . I am from a middle class family and I used to play with my dad and my brothers savings without telling them anything.and now I have lost all my dads savings around 250k(5000 usd) and they didn&apost know anything about it. I am now in heavy depression ..I don&apost know when my dad know about these things what they&aposll do with me. give me ssome solution sir. otherwise I am going to end betting with my life. thank you goodbye.

Sinead on May 16, 2019:

What a terrible day down my mums as felt terrible and lost 50 on Leeds in the playoffs and felt like rubbish in the night and over eat too

Sinead on May 15, 2019:

At house last night and acting like a fool

Melissa Etherington on April 24, 2019:

Good blocking software is a great tool to help prevent the temptation of gambling - https://gamban.com/

Slimbo on March 27, 2019:

Hi looking for some support as I feel myself falling into a habit of thinking I can luckily make more money to help me pay bills due

goldbar7s on January 18, 2019:

Good to hear, Christopher. Good Luck to everyone.

Rovy on January 12, 2019:

Gambling is a terrible addiction ! I used to work at casino . I saw so many people addicted & I can&apost believe I&aposm one of them .. Many time driving home from casino .. Im so mad & angry to myself & I still come in back . One day as the time . I&aposm trying to stay away from casino ..I work 2 job , Try to cover the money I lost ( so so stupid ..) .. Hopefully read all these post from this program will help .. Be strong people .. Remember casino don&apost open business to give money . They are open we need business to take our money ..

Christopher1985 on December 23, 2018:

Sorry didn&apost see your message. I haven&apost made a bet in about 18 months. It&aposs funny, I never thought I could live without gambling but there are different ways to spend your time in healthy way. I don&apost miss betting very much. I hope things are getting better for you.

goldbar7s on December 22, 2018:

Life is not at the casino. Life is at home or with your family or at your job. No matter how small it is, that is where life really is. Please cherish every moment of your REAL life. Christopher, I am sorry you are having problems again. The best of luck to you!

TLKG on November 17, 2018:

Thank you very much for your support, yes you&aposre right, more time about living! Today is day#4 and I feel so good. Today I&aposm going to Costco with my family. How long has it been for you? Thank you god bless and stay safe. TLKG

Christopher1985 on November 16, 2018:

Hang in there. Every day not gambling is a good day. Forget about what is lost. The only thing we have is our time and we need to cherish our time. We can not spend any more time gambling. We need to spend our time living.

TLKG on November 15, 2018:

I have read everyone&aposs comments, how is everyone doing? Update please? Don&apost really know how this website works, wish I could click on your comment and we could start chatting. I&aposm praying for ALL OF US, GOD HELP US ALL PLEASE!

TLKG on November 15, 2018:

I have been gambling for 21 years in Vegas and so over it! I get so bored and to Dotty&aposs and sit there for over 8 hours to come home BROKE. I&aposm asking for help from others how to stop, I&aposve gone 5-7 no gambling and then I get hit. UGH I feel so good in those 5-7 days, but I must say keeping busy is a hard thing, the machine keep us busy!

goldbar7s on November 02, 2018:

Have not been gambling. I keep getting offers of free slot play from the casino. Have not been going. It will just get me back into it and the SPIRIT will take me over again.

Sam84xx on November 01, 2018:

Need to stop gambling. Been doing it for years. I get paid and my money is gone within a matter of days. I do pay my bills but thats it then end up getting loans. My husband is fed up and so am i. I really want to stop but its so hard

MADGAMBLER on August 28, 2018:

damn. gambling robs you of small pleasures in life. missing out on my children growing up..excessive amounts of alchol going with the gambling and after loosing R50 000 over a week end I feel crap for about 2 days..get busy at work and the urge comes back. recently stopped smoking again and its tough. been gambling on and off for over 15 years I am 47 and need to see the world again. instead of making the big bosses rich at casinos. strong mind where are you .

Benny USA on July 09, 2018:

You are not alone my friend! Just move on . stop if you can, if not. gamble only what you can afford . Play low! Don’t hurt yourself. remember, there’s always tomorrow! I used to play big . knocked off all my savings. and I’M 60 years old .. almost there to retire! Stay busy my friend.. make gambling for reacration only . there hope . life is good ! Enjoy money to enjoy life not to waste it for nothing. forget the past . start a new life . !

Gotta stop on July 08, 2018:

I&aposm taking my first step to stop gambling. I know I can do it, I just, need to stay focused. My problem is I let myself believe I&aposm only going to spend a little and then when I start losing, I start withdrawing more and more money! Last night I lost $1,800 usd and I, felt so horrible! I now know I just have to stop completely. The only time I&aposve been able to stay away for a week is to give my husband my debit and credit cards. I need to stay disciplined but it&aposs so hard. I love the excitement it can bring but hate the depression after I lose so much money. I thought if I posted here, I can start my life without gambling. I&aposll keep reading your posts, so keep them coming!

Tracy on June 02, 2018:

I have had a problem with gambling for over 5 years now. I try and quit and am usually successful for about a year and then stress and financial problems drive me back to the casino. I play one slots game maybe two. I will sit for hours at this one machine and veg out. I am so unhappy and it is putting a big strain on my marriage. I leave usually with all my money in that machine and nothing left but depression and fear of facing my husband and tons of guilt. I just don&apost know what to do

Inrecovery69 on April 10, 2018:

My first post was almost 8 months ago and have posted a couple of times since then. I am proud to say that i haven&apost gambled one penny in all that time and have worked hard to clear my debts. Last time i checked i had

ਲ਼,500 on credit cards, and was just over ਲ਼,000 into my overdraft. 10 months ago i was ꌦ,000 in debt with a lot owed on loans. It&aposs been hard but well worth it. In fact, just last week my wife and i purchased a new home. Getting a mortgage was a distant dream 12 months ago. It shows how much you can accomplish if you can give up gambling. I have, and it is wonderful! Now that i have a mortgage to pay i have even more reason to stay away from gambling. I keep on top of my credit card payments and make more than the minimum payments each month, something that has greatly helped my ceedit score. Next step is to wait a few weeks and take out a balance transfer credit card. This will help reduce what i have to pay as no interest will be added for 3 years. I am aiming to be totally debt free within a year. Please be a winner and not let the bookies or casinos win. Giving up is hard, but you can do it if you really really want to. I did it after gambling forr nearly 30 years. Good luck.

Dsuhe29 on April 09, 2018:

thanks my dear friend, i am thinking that i can stop but still not stop yet.

i hope after i read all comment from dear friend i can stop and no more casino. i&aposve been play casino many years and been worked at many country such germany, macau, dubai but i dont even save some money from my worked. i am really tired but still difficult to go away from gambling.

i will be happy if someone have good suggestion and share more experience.

Stay strong on March 21, 2018:

Please stay strong people! Into my first week gamble free myself! God bless you all

mark on March 21, 2018:

just came across this site and sounds like everyone feels like I do or have. I have gambled for 15 years and lost my house and marriage. 4 months ago I went to GamCare and I haven&apost gambled since. Something just felt different this time and although I will always have an addicted gambling problem I really feel like I wont gamble again. In 4 months I am no way debt free but so much better than before and amazed how I managed to spend 100k gambling last year when I earn half that! However things do get better. Its one day at a time but every day you are not making it worse, you are making life better. I believe you can learn to despise gambling and as much as momentum makes you gamble more and more, momentum can make you NOT want to gamble more and more. I am terrified of gambling again after 120 days and starting from 1 again. I know if I have one bet I will have 100 so cant gamble. Have to start with 1 day away from casino or bookies, then build and build. More days you don&apost go the more scared you are to start again and gamble. Know its hard as I swore never to gamble again more times then I can remember. However it can be done guys and f**k the casino and bookies is what I think now. Its always been my fault I gambled but now I despise anything to do with gambling and feel in a good place because of it.

Carly01 on March 08, 2018:

Soooo tired of this. I’ve been doing really well over the last 4 years and every year around this time I end up back at the casino. I know I can quit. I’ve stayed away for long periods of time with help from a 12step group but, it’s like I make the decision to go out of he blue and end up downtown losing money I’ve worked really hard for. I come home and look at my son and cry. I want to save money for him and I can’t get ahead trying to win money for the high of it? This has gone from crazy obsession (gambling every day) to a few times a year. the damage I do in those few times a year is something I can’t seem to understand. I struggle with anxiety and depression so I know it has to do with that along with alcoholism (I’ve been sober for 4.5 years thanks to aa). But, something triggers me. I’m exhusted of this and want to live a completely clean life. I know I’m capable of better and that’s the worst part. I’ve never written this out bc I’ve been to scared to address it. Thanks for reading. Hope and healing to all.

Layed 350 mistake on February 11, 2018:

Well my head messed up as looking to lose just under 350 by mistake! Crazy!

goldbar7s on January 18, 2018:

We will never outsmart the casino. The only way to survive is to not go.

Benny usa on January 18, 2018:

You are not alone my friend. were Just in the same boat! I’ve been in your stuation so many times. feeling low ,remorse ,guilty , have debts , body is tired . hey man, Let’s stop this gambling habit . I’m 59 yrs old . I would rather spend my money in doing something else ! Soon , I’ll be 60. in planning to travel and see the world . I don’t mind if it cost me lots of money. at least I reward myself . way better than to donate it to casinos! Live to learn . there’s hope!

Dontgiveup on January 17, 2018:

Hi everyone, it&aposs me again, and I just went on another gambling bing! Trust me, its not easy when you don&apost have money but I found a way to waste another $1200. Maxed credit cards, personal loans, borrowing from future (4 401K loans outstanding) having to cancel my vacation to Disney, it just goes on and on. I have posted for the past 6 months and there were times when I stopped for a few weeks, but like a drug addict, I need my fix. But I will never give up (and I don&apost want any of you guys either). Life is a blessing, no matter what happens, today can be a new beginning. Its been 4 days for me now, but the weekend I spent about 8 hours at the casino, cursing at the machines, cursing at myself (under my breath) up and down, but mostly down, and definitely down before I left. I knew there a big fight waiting for me when I got home and there was another huge fight - this the only thing we ever fight about - I wonder why, right?! Thank God I am one lucky SOB to have the most amazing person to share my life with! I am soo tired of feeling this way, of being broke, and disappointing myself (and my family). Please continue to post Benny USA and Dave, and others. We can stop, we must stop! God Bless!

dave on January 13, 2018:

i lost a lot of money at casinos for 9 years in a row, and finally had to quit, maxed out credit cards and lines of credit , i actually quit for about 13 months, and was doing good ,but then started all over again, im back at square one,and need help and have to learn to quit all over again

Benny usa on January 11, 2018:

Stop the pain . stop gambling! U got 2 choices. gets life better or gets life worse. that’s how simple it is!. Remember there’s no winnngs in gambling. u win today , tomorrow , the next days. but comes a time u lose everything . it happen to us, right . is there anybody out there that is up in money from gambling . it’s your choice my friend . there’s HOPE to change for better. we can do it!

First week. on January 10, 2018:

I got to give this up so this is my first week

Quitter from Nigeria on January 09, 2018:

My dream was to see myself in a classic position tomorrow and become boss of my own not until I tasted the fruit of sport betting which completely futile my dream!

I exhausted what I can call "future" and even created problems for my tomorrow, (. Let me rather say "problems for my yesterday") until I lost and I found myself in Christ! Now, I can see my tomorrow glowing and brighter than yesterday. Halleluyah.

Ginger on January 05, 2018:

Hi it has been great reading comments, I would like to give up slot machines chasing the last pound I lost. I lost 򣉠 today which I am not proud about hopefully reading other peoples comments will help me quit,

Dontgiveup on December 29, 2017:

Thank you InRecovery69 for your encouragement. I sincerely appreciate it! I am glad that you posted and shared with us that life/finances are getting better for you. It is wonderful to hear some success and a life without gambling can provide you a better life. I hope to on day make it pass 30 days. For now, I must confess, after "3" WHOLE days, I went to the casino 2x today. I am bad, I know. My lack of discipline and determination waned - I will try a fresh start tomorrow. I can&apost give up! God bless everyone!

InRecovery69 on December 29, 2017:

Hi Dontgiveup, good to see you got back on the horse again after falling off (please forgive the pun)! As you are doing, take it one day at a time and your strength will grow. One of the key things is to learn to despise gambling. Just recall all those times you lost and the pain and hurt that you experienced. That will help you to loath this habit. As for me, its been nearly 7 months without gambling and i am now applying for a mortgage. Credit file has livened up with debts being repaid in full and no credit applications for the last 8 months. So my once distant dreams can perhaps be realised. Such a difference from a few months ago. Please please keep it up. it is incredibly worth it! Good luck.

Dontgiveup on December 28, 2017:

3rd day - no gambling. I just got paid today and I am trying to keep extra busy after work, and paying my bills asap instead of throwing my money away.

Dontgiveup on December 27, 2017:

Hi everyone, 2 days - no gambling. :-)

Dontgiveup on December 26, 2017:

Hi everyone, well its been 3 months since I posted and haven&apost been back to this site. I had believed I was on the road to wellness since I hadn&apost gambled for 3-4 weeks and I thought I was "recovering" from gambling addiction. But basically for the past 3 months I have gambling again, almost daily, and when finances and time permitted 2x a day. Not exactly the "recovery" I was hoping for you. I was there Christmas Eve until closing (I made time for friends & family during the day - but managed to squeeze 4 hours in the evening to myself - not proud of it), and the Casino closed on Christmas day, and so I am telling myself that the best gift I can truly give myself, my family, and friends is stop gambling. For today, I can&apost make any more promises to myself that I can&apost keep, but I do not want gamble anymore either. If you are looking to quite, make today your 1st day and we can help support each other through this struggle. God Bless.

Marti on December 02, 2017:

I Gamble a few times a week until I loose everything. Spending all my money this addiction has left me broke. It all started in June it&aposs now December and I still can&apost stop. I don&apost have any idea how to stop any body have any idea how to get me to stop this addiction to Gamble. I am ready to to stop. It is time before It&aposs to late.

Daniboi on November 30, 2017:

Hi everyone, I&aposm new here, but there are no ga meetings near me, and my gambling is way out of control! I was hooked on meth 25 years (clean 7 ears now) so I know how addiction works, but I just can&apost seem to stop :( I&aposm hoping an online forum can help? It&aposs to the point all I think about is the game room, even when I&aposm at work, I&aposm spending about 1000 a week, which is putting me in debt , I tried getting rid of my on hand cash and my debit card, then today I was desperate and drew a cash advance on my credit card! 24% interest DAILY. I take care of both my elderly parents (separate households) both I&aposll, and my disabled brother, I have a lot of people I take care of, I&aposm praying I don&apost have to loose EVERYTHING before I can quite?:( ps, no one in my family know the true extent of my gambling problem:(

Mums dinner. on November 19, 2017:

Glenna Washburn on November 18, 2017:

I need to quit gambling now! I&aposm sooo addicted!

I have a counselor for gambling too. This is so bad!

Headache on November 18, 2017:

It’s just all one big headache atm

Not again! on November 17, 2017:

Done it again and lost 330 in the bookies. This addiction is killing me! I was doing so well too

In pain on November 09, 2017:

Let’s keep strong everyone

goldbar7s on November 08, 2017:

InRecovery69, thank you for your inspiration. That is where we all want to be.

InRecovery69 on November 06, 2017:

My first post was almost 3 months ago. I am glad to say I haven&apost gambled since then. In fact, I last gambled in May 2017 so it&aposs been almost 6 months without gambling. One of the things I have realised is how easy it gets to refrain from gambling once time passes. However, I have been burnt in the past when I thought I could control it and gambled with little money. That was such a mistake, you simply get sucked back in. The only way to is complete abstinence - not even a lottery ticket. I have also registered with free websites to check my credit score. This had been damaged by taking out payday loans to cover my losses and to gamble with. Now, I can see my credit score improving greatly. I got in debt to the tune of ꌱ,000 before I stopped gambling. In 6 months I have managed to reduce that debt to ꌒ,000. This was mainly due to my wife borrowing my a few thousand pounds to pay off the payday loans early. This reduced the debt by several thousand pounds. In a few more months I aim to be completely debt free by paying off credit card debts and my overdraft and will apply for a mortgage to by our first property next summer. My wife is so much happier now and I am a changed person. no more lies and deceit. I love the way things are going, my outlook is so promising.

I hope this shows how life can change for the better without gambling. I know it is hard and I know I still have a lot to work on, keeping away from gambling is incredibly hard. The rewards though are great, and the inner peace is beyond words. no more suicidal thoughts. I can walk through the city centre and pass all bookmakers and casinos and not even give them a second thought.

If you are on the road to recovery - whether you have taken many steps or your very first step please keep going. The effort is absolutely worth it.

Shez on November 02, 2017:

i started out small with little cash R200.00 but as time went by i started using a lot of cash and going to different casinos.I hated the life but sometimes it helped me until i started sleeping there and also asking people for money i was lying to everyone around me and that felt so bad.i am not sure if i am an addict or im going there.I also dont want to open up to my friends because i know they will judge me.

Izzy e on October 29, 2017:

Another bit of advice I have found good! Stay away from mates who gamble. I was tempted with a friend and he was almost egging me on, almost hoping to see me crack. Not drinking with him again for a long time. I must say that he made me despise the pokies!

Share your stories people, it helps heaps

Aldi on October 28, 2017:

Well done lizzy. Keep it up

Izzy e on October 27, 2017:

Now on Day 33. I feel as though I wont touch the slots again but I also read stories about people gong months without gambling then going nuts and losing the lot. Keep strong people because i can see the benefits already

Samuel on October 25, 2017:

TLM on October 22, 2017:

Hi I&aposm new to this. I started gambling 10 years ago. I&aposm tired and sick how I have lied constantly to my husband about how I waste away our money. everytime I got paid I went to the casino blew my check and his. I even took money that wasn&apost mine. wasn&apost alot but that doesn&apost matter it was wrong. ..I&aposm hate myself sometimes that I can go months do good. but once I go I don&apost stop till I&aposm broke. ..one of my reasons I started gambling I was trying to help support my daughter and her kids. you win big once and it sucks you in. I want to stop. so I&aposm deleting games on my tablets. and staying away from casinos. I&aposve been praying alot wondering why God wasn&apost helping me to stop. it wasn&apost him it was me. I was like I can control this I will only spend a $100.00. as long as I keep going to the casino or playing games on tablets it will never be under control. ..day 1 for me.

Edward on October 17, 2017:

Kathy with time and not gambling everything gets better pretty quickly. The key is to not gamble which is the hardest part I know. You can do it! Don’t let this addiction beat you!

Kathy on October 17, 2017:

Today is day one for me. I have tried several times to quit - my longest stretch has been six weeks without gambling. I am determined to beat this addiction and start feeling better. Reading all of your comments has been helpful. You know what it is like and how hard it is. This past weekend I hit rock bottom. Thank you for sharing your stories!

Edward on October 16, 2017:

Hi. How is everyone? If u stop gambling u will see finances and life in general gets so much better, I know it’s easier said then done but trust me your not gonna recoup the money you lost. That money is gone, their is more to life then just money, stop gambling and live life. I wasted so much of my life gambling it’s quite pathetic. I remember when I was 15 and they told me I was lucky to discover n recognize I have a problem at such a young age, but I’m 39 now and life moved in the blink of an eye. I’m tired of putting myself through this roller coaster. I’m stopping now with a little bit of savings still left and no debt. It’s gonna be hard because I live in Vegas but I have to do this. Nomore gambling! Anyone else here in Vegas? Good luck ladies and gents

goldbar7s on October 11, 2017:

Christopher1985 and everyone else, I did not post the previous comment. Someone else signed in under my name and posted that comment. Although I understand their sense of humor,I did not post it. I posted the previous 2 comments. I am only speaking for myself but I see how sick I am from losing at the casino constantly. I never thought about what a sick intolerant person I would become if I was winning millions and what trouble I might end up in. Recent events have made me think about this. I really think I am not interested in the big casino game any longer. I feel that I am seeing that the casino wins in the end no matter how brilliant you may be at this game. Help us all!

Christopher1985 on October 11, 2017:

Gold bar 7s, I am not sure if you are posting on here as a joke but you are wasting yours and everyone else&aposs time. You probably also heard of "successful" professional poker players like Mike Matasau who are truly degenerates. Players like this play for millions but on a bad losing streak can lose EVERYTHING which is not hard to do for a high roller poker player. Yes Ivey and Helmuth may have a better chance to win than the average player but they get plenty of sponsors who support them, which the average poker player does not. You can have a 98% to win a hand but when the only card that beats you comes it can be very significant

Gold bar 7s on October 10, 2017:

Good luck gold bar but if you do return to the casino just stick to no Limit holdem poker! I been reading up about it and there is a chance you can make good money and even make a living out of it! Goggle names like Phil Ivey, Phil hellmuth, Chris moneymaker. I bet all these people was like us and thought there no way to win at gambling and no way out but they changed there life’s around and become consistent winners! I say we join the club! Who’s up for joining the poker challenge and finally becoming a winner!

goldbar7s on October 09, 2017:

The best of luck to everyone on this forum. I think I have lost interest in the casino scene.

goldbar7s on October 08, 2017:

Making millions of dollars per year from gambling is where everyone on this forum wants to be. What a joke.

Izzy e on October 08, 2017:

Day 14 without gambling! and feel good about it but still freaking worried I am going to cave in. Have decided I will not go in pubs with pokies visible or loud coz thats hard to stop the temptation. Have told my best mate that Ive stopped and he agreed to as-well, hes not really hooked but the fact he is stopping will help me. I am also going to go to a GA meeting when I travel for work to remind me of what it can do to my life!!

Dead Feeling and Lyn try the 100 day challenge and log all your past and now feelings, it helps remind you of the fucked up feelings and emotions

Lyn on October 04, 2017:

This is so hard. I&aposm a gambler and week after week I gamble my whole paycheck. I come home from the casinos saying I&aposm not going to gamble again but when it comes payday I&aposm back at the casinos. This is day one for me.

Christopher1985 on October 03, 2017:

I appreciate it Goldbar. Just last night there was a meeting and a member named Don celebrated 14 years free of gambling. The biggest help is getting support from loved ones. I&aposm sure that once you come clean and have the desire to stop, things will get better and better.

Izzy E you can just google Gamblers Anonymous meetings or go to local churches where meetings are usually held.

goldbar7s on October 02, 2017:

Christoper1985, so glad you are doing so well.

Izzy e on October 01, 2017:

Went to the pub with mates yesterday and watched them gamble, it was hard but proud I just sat and watched. How do you find the GA meetings?

BigFatDad on October 01, 2017:

Day 22 for me. the amount of money I have saved by not gambling is incredible!

Christopher 1985: great advice on GA. I have been to several meetings and they help. They are very encouraging. As a traveling salesman, they also offer a great alternative to the casino. It was very powerful to realize I am not alone, and do not need to fight this by myself.

Thanks to all for the posts! Keep fighting.

Christopher1985 on September 29, 2017:

Hello all. I have been posting on this site for years. I have recently been active in gamblers anonymous and recently celebrated 90 days of being clean which people say is the hardest step. I have truly realized if you try to stop on your own there is a high possibility you will relapse. If you stop on your own, who is there to encourage you and celebrate your 90 day, 1 year and 2 year anniversaries. Take my advice and try GA for 30 days. Gambling will always be there for you if you don&apost like it.

Izzy e on September 28, 2017:

On Day 3 and thinking about gambling but not going to. Big problem is when I travel for work. I need an alternative, maybe the GYM.

Izzy e on September 25, 2017:

Need to stop gambling, been hiding it for years and really had enough! I am looking at a 100 day challenge. My plan is to stop going to places where slots are and stay out of casinos, I am also going to leave my money cards at home all the time if I can help it! So need help before its too late!

Inrecovery69 on September 21, 2017:

Good job BigFatDad! It shows how sharing via this site can help people stay on course and offer encouragement. Keep it up. I haven&apost yielded yet and am currently looking at my credit file to see how my credit score is improving. And it us definitely improving! I am aiming to get on the property ladder within the next 9 months - something that would be impossible if I was gambling. The future is so much brighter when gambling is out of the picture. God speed.

goldbar7s on September 17, 2017:

Dontgiveup, the best of luck to you.

BigFatDad on September 17, 2017:

Day 8 for me! It ain&apost easy, but it is worth it. I scheduled my customer visits this past week, in a manner that kept me out of the casinos. I actually thought about driving 4-1/2 hours the one night, to gamble, but called my daughter instead. I didn&apost tell her the real reason for calling, but just talking to her gave me the inspiration I needed to not gamble. A few other times I was tempted, I read through the comments below, and decided against it. Thanks for the comments, everyone! Stay the ccourse!

1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day at a time.

Mukeshrao on September 16, 2017:

Hi guys I&aposm mukesh and I&aposm just 20 this year and going to reach 21 soon. I started gambling on the age of 18 and until today I&aposm gambling. I used to be a non gambler last time but since I were influenced by my friends I made it as habit. Every time I had money and the first thing I do is going to the gambling shop. I lose all of the money. Sometimes all of my salary about 2000 In 2-3 hours. I felt like what the shit I&aposm doing every I have money. I rarely spend money for myself cause I&aposm totally addicted on gambling. When I can&apost take it anymore, I came to look up for ways to lose this addiction and came up this website. Most of the information are good and from now on I&aposm going to stop gambling. I&aposm quite confident after came up these informations and the response of others. Thanks guys. I love u all.

Inrecovery69 on September 14, 2017:

Thanks BigFatDad, keep the positivity going. Thanks for the encouragement - it is upbuilding and means a lot. Thanks again.

BigFatDad on September 14, 2017:

Congratulations Inrecovery69! 4 weeks is awesome. I am on day 4, and it is not easy. Your post is an inspiration for today. I appreciate it. Keep it going.

Inrecovery69 on September 13, 2017:

I last posted 4 weeks ago and I am happy to say i haven&apost gambled since then. Last time I had a relapse it nearly cost me my marriage I didn&apost want that at all. I guess the realisation that I had just one last chance has really hit home. I was at the bottom sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom for the only way to be up. So guys, if I can do it so can you. Put Family and yourself first gambling is an unnecessary evil that controls and destroys lives. Keep this in mind always, and try to be closer to your loved ones. they are a real source of strength. Good luck to you all and I am hope my abstinence continues.

BigFatDad on September 10, 2017:

Chandra, if you feel like you want to do suicide, please don&apost! Your life has meaning and value and worth, and you can find it. If that feeling is overwhelming, you owe it to yourself, and to everyone that knows you and loves you, to come through this. SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY, call a hotline, or someone that loves you, and don&apost give up.

I&aposm new to this page as well. I would have never dreamed that my life would bring me to this point. 4 years ago, when the company I work for changed ownership, I was demoted from a great executive management position in a factory, to a manufactures sales rep. Even though I lost all my authority and responsibility within the company, it turns out I had the ability to make tremendously more money.

This should have been a great thing, right?? Turns out it wasn&apost.

I found that all the extra money, which could have gone to pay down my kids college debt, my house, my cars, my credit cards, or anything else, ended up going to the casinos.

I actually started planning my weekly customer visits around the casinos. I have now arrived at the point in my life, where I spend 30 or so hours a week in a casino, and less than 20 with my customers.

That great money from the new position has gone due to my sales dropping off, and my debt is climbing quickly. I just need to stop, but it seems so frigging difficult.

I have lied to my family, my friends, and my workplace about my addiction, but today I claim NO MORE. I CAN DO THIS!!

Like bee said below " I&aposm going to give the casinos the finger as I drive by them.

Thanks to everyone who has posted. It has been a great encouragement and very inspiring.

One minute at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time..

Chandra mouli on September 09, 2017:

hii guys.i am new to this page. i just wanted to stop gambling.When ever i loose money i think of stopping it but i am not able to stop it for more than a week.i am a b tech student from India. My father gives me money every month end.But from the last 4 months i didn&apost even use single rupee in it.When ever he gives me money i will place that money in gambling.Now i am left with nothing.I even borrowed money from my friends too.Now what should i do.How to stop gambling. I am not able to come out of it.I tried a lot but i am not able to stop it.when ever some one gives me money for eating.Even that also i am spending on gambling.I am not able to sleep night properly also. only one thing that is going in my mind is how should i clear the money which i have taken from my friends.I want to do sucide. But my father is struggling a lot to make money so that i can study well. i want to take care of him in late stages.i want to share these thoughts with someone but even my friends are not letting me to come nearer to them also.so i shared here

Lovelife1215 on September 04, 2017:

Sometimes you are sent to the right place. I am done. I have spent the Labor Day weekend in the casino. Lost more than I can even admit to myself. :-( I have lied to my family, saying "I want to stay home by myself". Ha! I spent the evenings with my "sick friends at the casino", Jack & Queenie & the other losers (sorry people) I often see there.

I know why I gamble. 2 years & 2 months ago my 28 year old daughter died, she struggled with her own addictions, eating disorder, depression, alcoholism. I couldn&apost help her, and now she is gone. So now I live with that pain. At the casino I can forget the pain for a few hours. & feel good when I win (not that often, not at all this weekend!). I have 4, soon 5, beautiful grandchildren and 3 beautiful children, friends, why do I need to do this.

I suspect my kids know my problem, but do not have an idea of the severity and would be horrified. As these young families struggle with money, I am throwing it in the garbage can. I must be crazy.

Finding this article, the 12 helpful steps, and all your comments are giving me hope this morning, I am intelligent, I know I have a problem, but this is so hard. I hate that I was not more compassionate to my daughter&aposs struggles. But I can do this for her. I will do this for her. Today I start. One day, one hour, one minute. that was her mantra and it will be mine.

Thank you for listening, and I look forward to reading all your suggestions for stopping.

(& damn you video poker, I really love to play! Just like an alcoholic loves the &apostaste of beer&apos.

Dontgiveup on September 02, 2017:

Goldbar7, you are soo correct. My analogy is a casino is like a "crack" house. Some people can handle trying crack, but many people will get hooked and will keep going back to get "high" - I am definitely one of those people. Anyways - I have been gambling free for a solid 3 weeks (21 days) - I am happy about it, even though it is a daily struggle. I come to this post daily, sometimes 2-3x a day and if no new posts, I just go back and reread some prior posts. This, along with prayer, and talking about it with the people that care about me is important to my recovery, because, like alcohol and drug addiction, there is no cure, but it is manageable and I am hoping to have a better future! For now, one day at a time. God bless!

goldbar7s on September 02, 2017:

The casino is death. All the people there are ensnared in death. The cruel thing is that people feel like they are enjoying themselves while they are being killed.

Jackson rankin on August 31, 2017:

I am a gambler. I am 29 years old. I have five children and an amazing beautiful woman whom I lost to gambling. I spent all my money two weeks in a row. I promised my son who is six and the second youngest two packets of pokemon cards and nine fidget spinners this week totalling 50$ he lives in Auckland n I in taupo. His birthday was last week. He asked if I played for his bike. I lied and said yes I sent the money to his mum. He knew I was lying. I then went on to promise him what he wanted only simple little things to show that I love him once again I failed because of my addiction my greedy selfish addiction.